Natalie Colley Quoted by PureWow: What I Wish I Knew About My Finances *Before* My Husband Died
Don’t Commit to a Big Spend for at Least 90 Days
Natalie Colley, Senior Lead Advisor at Francis Financial explains the common financial reactions that often occur with widowhood.
“You’ve been nonstop running on empty emotionally and in every way possible,” she says. “A lot of women in such situations have a similar impulse to go off the grid.” Instead of making an impulsive move prompted by Big Feelings, Colley recommends working with a grief counselor to talk through the underlying emotions so that they can understand and resist compulsive impulses.
In my case, I gave myself an arbitrary cap of purchasing anything non-essential over $100 for three months, buying myself not a Cartier bracelet but instead time itself to attend a cancer caregivers’ grief group. There I expressed the discomforts, insecurities, and confusion that I thought looking down at a gold bracelet would protect me from. After 90 days, I (almost) forgot about the jewelry.